Port Grand, saying no to men??

May 16, 2012 § Leave a comment

I had planned to write a blog about my experience at Port Grand but due to its policies that cannot happen for now.

Five years in the making, Port Grand finally opened its doors  bringing hope of some entertainment to Karachiites

Work on the much talked about project began in 2006 in karachi pakistan. I for one had been waiting for it to open impatiently. The management promised a much earlier opening date but delays and lack of funds meant that it took almost twice the time to complete the project, Some of my friends who,s living in karachi specially Danish Siddiqui ,Mr. Rathore they discussed about that and we made a plan on phone when i ll be come to karachi will ll be hang out togather,in the mean time I visited Port Grand’s website and Facebook page to look at the entertainment on offer and loved what I saw. Some of my friends who went on opening night said that as promised, Port Grand has delivered a complete entertainment package from shopping to theatre to an array of dishes from the world over. when the day finally came, I couldn’t wait to check the place out.during my previous visit to Karachi ,pakistan in 2011

All of these raised my hopes and as the weekend approached, I called up a Danish Siddiqui & Raza Agha to make a plan to go there on Saturday night. It was only when one of them asked me how we planned to get in without taking a girl along that I learned of the admission policy and all my hopes were crushed. It was supposed to be a guys’ night out but that is too much to ask, I guess.

Discrimination goes ‘grand’

Living up to its name of making everything ‘grand,’ Port Grand has taken discrimination to a new level with its admission policy of ‘Families only’ or in other words barring single men or a group of men/boys from entering.

Single girls or a group of single girls are welcomed with open arms, though.

What social values are the owners trying to convey?

That all single men are inherent trouble makers or that it is not acceptable in our culture or society to go out in public without a lady’s presence?

Are we implying that going out with the ‘boys’ suggests homosexual tendencies and this is intolerable in our society and religion?

A group of girls hanging out seems not to raise such concerns. This type of polarised thinking only exists in this country. Even India, our immediate neighbour and with whom we share a big chunk of our culture, does not promote such practices.

The Port Grand management appears to be reinforcing the belief that all groups of single men should be stereotyped and marginalised. It is promoting a gender based social apartheid, and because of this a time might come where any new place or anything great to happen to Karachi might be off limits to people based on their gender. They seem to be sending out a message that single guys and their groups are socially inferior/unacceptable.

Sexism is bad business

The owners may be scared that if they do not put such restrictions their business might be affected with females not wanting to come being scared of any untoward incident because of single guys roaming around. popular entertainment places that are thronged by number of people everyday including many females and do not have such a discriminatory policy in place.

Tourists don’t have dates

Port Grand is supposed to be a tourist attraction but my question for the owners is:

How is a single man, visiting Karachi on business, supposed to come and see this place if he does not have female acquaintances in the city, or if he does not want to pay for a ‘Date Experience’ as Charlie Sheen would put it?

One of the basic lessons taught in management classes dealing with policy making is never to devise a policy based on a minority segment. I concede that there are some men who visit places for the sole purpose of ogling at girls and at times pass comments too. But they are in minority. The majority of the boys, against popularly held belief, are well behaved. And, this minority will be kept out by the three hundred rupee entrance fee in place in the first place and if not, then the security people deployed at the place will keep them in check. Therefore this discriminatory policy is superfluous and should be repealed. The sooner the better!




May 16, 2012 § Leave a comment


Dear  Maya ! 

My name is Sheheryar Khan.( A true Khan u can say)  by profession i am a    Computer engr. when I visited to Pakistan since almost 6 month back, than I like browsing through morning talk shows when I’m waiting for breakfast made by my mom who, like your colleague said in a particular clip, is like my friend and I confide in her often. Sometimes I don’t. Sometimes I do. She’s never demanded an oath of eternal confidence in her. We’re humans, and we love our private space. You might be thinking, “Why is he telling me this?” I thought I should let you know about the knitty gritty of my personal life since you do enjoy delving into deeper details. Wise people always do.

Maya? I love parks. Parks are amazing. Did you know that top ten parks in the world are located in London, Vancouver, San Francisco, Tokyo, Lisbon (don’t worry – not ‘lesbian’), Chicago and Bangkok,Copenhagen,berlin,stuttgart? If you show up in Lahore in the same park that I go to, it might become the most famous park in the whole world for what happens right after we encounter each other. Parks have lots of nice, lush grass and benches. I love benches. Parks also have trees and swings and sidewalks for people to walk on, and sometimes chase people after. Parks are amazing. My dad used to take me to my favorite park when I was little, you know? Sometimes couples passed by us and my dad would bring his Sony high definition video camera out and run after them, inquiring of their marital or non-marital status based on his idea of morality. Kidding. My dad just yawned and pushed the swing higher for me.

Hey, Maya? Sorry, I know I’m rambling. Just bear with me. Come on, we should confide in each other. suppose If i really like someone. than what ???? Most young people do. It’s natural, don’t worry. Nothing extraordinary, absurd or heinous about it. We hang out often. Since we’re on a nice, equal wavelength, we enjoy spending time in places that are simple, easy to go (unless someone decides to chase us with a cell phone camera to document our stray presence) and open-spaced because I love sitting in the sun on a winter afternoon. or any grill programme,sipping pinacolada…etc etc Do you know where we go? A local park. That’s right.

Young people fall in love all the time( your belongs to media industry and you know better than me cuz all those things are media Gifted to society)right?. Sometimes they don’t – it’s just infatuation. Sometimes they do and they’re confused as hell and they still go out to understand the significance of the other. In the process, they pick a location like normal people do where they can sit down and spend time together. I’m sure you liked someone when you were in college. No big deal. See, guys can also fall in love pretty much every single day of the week and so do girls. Sometimes they make the right decision, sometimes they make mistakes. It’s called being human. But trust me, they don’t need a team of middle aged women hounding them down public places to enlighten them about their decisions. And trust me, their mothers will handle whatever happens. No one asked you or anyone else to take the responsibility of scrutinizing them. See, what worries me a lot is when public figures like you with considerable influence on viewers morph into moral police. In a country like Pakistan where public vigilantism has exceeded levels of brutality, the last thing the youth needs is a team of moral watchdogs sniffing around for “impure” behavior.

If indeed your concern is sincere (which I still have qualms with – since the privacy of a person’s choice is most cogent; they’ll ask for help when they ask you) then invest in sex education or how a female can avoid getting hurt in various situations. Better yet, do a segment on respect for privacy. Now that’s a talk show I would make my entire neighborhood subscribe to. I understand that you might be fretting about the welfare of young women in this society. I do too along with thousands of other well-to-do folks. But there’s a difference between you and me: I don’t publicize their actions on a local TV channel, I don’t chastise them for going out on a date and I don’t expect people to slut-shame the girl or the boy into hiding. I let them be unless and until they ask for help or if there is eminent danger.

Hold on. I’m Muslim too. However the ethos of my faith urges that unless I am perfect in my moral conduct, I have no right whatsoever to point my finger atanyone for anything. Whatever is done is left between the individual and their conscience. Hell, no one ever told me to demand for someone’s nikah-nama when they’re sitting together. It doesn’t concern me or you or anyone else. Sometimes I am ashamed to be from the same faith when I see people like you dictating immaculate morality for others. Furthermore I am mortified as a Pakistani when I see wardens of rectitude making dangerous spectacles of common citizens simply to boost hits on their show or to become shining role models for people of equally disappointing, mediocre thinking.

If that young couple gets hurt – which happens inevitably as a result of your irresponsible moral policing – you will be held accountable for reinforcing the sick obsession our society has with prying and needling into privacy. I thought media ethics would’ve taught you and several others the art of Letting People Be. It’s not too hard, really. All you have to do is mind your own business and find other mature, commendable ways of increasing popularity for your show. Say, have you seen that reporter who raided on someone’s residence for possessing alcohol? Don’t you think it would’ve yielded a decent conversation if you, let’s say, entered Cosa Nostra or Espresso or CTC or Cinnabon, where privileged folks like you go to, and accosted an unmarried couple for sitting together in their unmarriedness? Isn’t it pathetically convenient to interrogate a harmless couple in a park? Can someone please explain why haven’t these righteous correspondents ever barged into a conspiring terrorist’s household to expose their plans? Or maybe into a conservative political figure’s cozy room when they call over hookers (I don’t even care about that, honestly) or when they approve of policies that render our lives a lot more miserable than it already is? That takesguts.

You’re smart enough to understand by now that I am legitimately aggravated and so are others. Invasive moral policing is not just hypocritical, it is harmful.and I’m signing this while making yet another sinful plan of sitting in a park with the Girl I like.ha..kidding:)) Is this a one-way ticket to hell and destruction? I’m sure it is. No skin off my nose.

Assuming your action was religiously motivated, I was wondering how you would react if a raging maulvi decided to hound you on his morning talk show for not covering your hair. And assuming your action wasn’t religiously motivated but only carried out as a display of social concern, I wonder how you would feel if someone verbally quartered you for making the decisions you have by telling you, you were foolish and misdirected for doing so.

Now if you don’t mind, I have plans to make. If some one spending unmarried time with the girl Its like in a few days. thay’re so unmarried, it’s amazing. Sometimes in our high unmarriedfulness, he hold her arm and we walk through the park past closet Maya Khans and Zaid Hamids who genuinely detest us for our open display of joy, comfort and affection. I can’t wait to have you show up and ask us for our nikah document. This is what I’ll give you as proof:

                                It’s legit

Stay out of our parks !


Sitting Unmarried guy On a Bench in a Park With my pet.and grilling

When i was in the fourth Standard

April 29, 2012 § Leave a comment

When i was in the fourth class,one day in school after a lunch break there was a Urdu period,teacher ordered us to open the book page No..bla bla ….when i saw the chapter it was named as (pakistani Bachay) I thought it must be a interesting chapter cuz its  about  us.Hurray!!!!..and the teacher started to read that chapter and we ware listening to her,Let me tell you about that chapter precisely, in that chapter authour discussed about Regional Pakistani kids.

Sindhi kids they wears  Shalwar kameez Ajrak and Sindhi topi and they speak sindhi language…

A panjabi kids they wears Kurta ,dhoti,and speak panjabi language

A pustoon kids they wears: Shalwar,kameez with a pishawari Chappal,traditional Turban..and speaks pushto language( i love that language )

A Balochi kids they wear : a long kameez shalwar ,with a balochi turban balochi chappal and speaks Balochi language.Etc Etc

when the chapter ended i suddenly scrutinized my self where i am in the chapter ????? cuz i dont wear  sindhi topi,baclochi salwar,panjabi language.pustoon turban than am an i nt pakistani? …then who i am?….when i started to looked around my self might be some one was like me but unfortunately  i failed to find any one,then i got confused with a lot of question which come first time in my mind that i am pakistani,i born hear  in pakistan and the chapter was about pakistani kids ,then why i am not in it?????

in the mean while teacher came to me and asked what happend sheheryar ? are you all right? i said i am good madam but i have a question regarding this chapter …teacher surprized and replied to me  asked your question ,then

I told her the entire story and asked:

where i am in the chapter??

and who i am ?

you know what the teacher replied

that mohajir kid

My son you are   MOHAJIR……


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